Updated: Jan 3, 2021
Is it? Why do we hide behind "It is What it is"? Because it is the easy way out. It is easier to say this and run away than to sit and explain. I picked it up recently and started using it quite often. I realised I was trying to take the easy way. Instead of accepting things, instead of trying to bring a change, I was becoming comfortable with things the way they were/are, even if they are not how they are supposed to be. What am I doing to make it better? Nothing!
The downside of being an emotional person is that, we tend to take things to heart, think a lot. A slight change in the tone, the way they message, if they say something, tends to start a whole new chain of thoughts. I start thinking! Did I do something wrong? Did I say something I was not supposed to say? Did I cross the line? Did I behave inappropriately?
But when I started using "It is what it is" for quite a few things, I realised I was trying to convince myself that "Its okay! let it be. It is not going to change and you can't do anything about it." Maybe it will not change, maybe it is actually what it is, but the question is - do I let go of people and accept that I can't do anything to make things better? Do I just let it be?
It is easy to say this when I think I don't have an answer / when I am unable to justify or explain something / When I am unable to give a logical explanation for something I said / think.
But do I want to continue using this or go back to being my own self?
Maybe, after all, IT IS WHAT IT IS!